Dreams III

We have driven 1500 + miles since we last posted our blog.  It has been a wonderful week with many great moments for us.  The words the Apostles spoke to Jesus on the Mount of the Transfiguration continue to run through my head, “Lord, it is good for us to be here.”

We can’t begin to put everything into words.  So many times we just looked at each other and said, “Wow” as we viewed the scenery and the landscape.  As we drove from one state to another we realized once again that we leave behind the cars with that states license plates and suddenly we are traveling with those from a new state.  It reminded me that it is a lot like our life together.  We have people who are quite important to us for a while as we journey through our marriage and share a common interest, but our interests, activities and involvements change and so do the people.  It is not that we have forgotten them.  We have great memories of the things we did together but we continue to move on through life.

It has been great to once again be together just the two of us.  It has been some time since we traveled along without others we love or in a tour group.  We have had great conversation, funny inside jokes, made off-hand comments to each other, enjoyed great and simple meals together and had time to just hold hands and hold each other as we fell asleep or woke.

We are also amazed at how little things happen that provide us with special moments.  As we were getting into the car to drive to the top of Pikes Peak the music on our media card was “Climb Every Mountain” from the Sound of Music and our prayer that morning included a petition to care for the environment and one for people who needed us to think of them and pray for them.  We have also worked together in driving and navigating.  We have only been tense a few times when, even with the car’s navigation system, we made a wrong turn or couldn’t find where we were going.  Mostly we could laugh at ourselves as it seemed every time I got behind the wheel we hit construction or letting the fuel get low because we couldn’t find a diesel station.  More often than not it has just been good to be together with no radio, no one else but us, and to marvel at the beauty of God’s creation.  One particular aspect of this trip that we hadn’t thought of when we began was that we could encounter the changing of the leaves.  As we drove across Colorado the Aspen trees had such an intense color of yellow that our sense of sight had difficulty sometimes taking it in.  It reminded us of times when things in our relationship were so intense that it was difficult to comprehend.

While we have seen pictures of Las Vegas, nothing prepared us for the immensity of the properties there, just as nothing prepared us for being married.  While most told us we wouldn’t like Vegas, we had a great time and in the busyness we found lots of intimate moments together.  We shared with each other our hurting feet as we walked for miles, finding our way when we didn’t know where we going, having wonderful meals together and reminiscing about our trips to Europe as we had crepes in a French Cafe in the Paris Resort, talked about our gondola ride on the canal in Venice while we were in the Venetian, having Paella and Sangria in a Spanish restaurant and remembering tossing coins into Trevi Fountain in Rome so that we would return.  We didn’t throw coins in the replica here, not because we didn’t want to return, but neither of us had any coins.  We laughed as we said we were doing Vegas our way which meant we didn’t gamble at all and drank very little.  We were reminded on more than one occasion that we are aging as we had less stamina to climb stairs and walk as far as we once would have.  But we were thought of Sr. Joan Chitister’s book titled “The Gift of Years”, in which she reminds her readers that with age, life changes, but it is not over and can often be the best part of our lives.  Our life together is still filled with more joy than we could have imagined years ago when we were married.

Tomorrow we will be at the Grand Canyon and I’m sure we will be filled with the wonder of our love as we view another aspect of God’s creation and be able to say, “it is good for us to be here.

Keep dreaming and sharing those dreams with each other.  None of us know where the journey will take us and what graces we will need but we all need to think of the past as we journey to the future and live in the present.

Rita has done a good job of highlighting our trip, so far, but I would like to add a couple of things that have been especially important to me.

Meals have been a special time on this whole trip.  While the individual meals varied widely, from moderately expensive meals in Las Vegas to less expensive dinners in Colorado springs to lunches of fruits, vegetables and chips from the cooler in the car while stopped at a rest area on an interstate, we have found eating to be a special part of this trip.  From fancy to simple, the food has all tasted great.  I suspect that it has to do with the company we are keeping.

This has also been a time to marvel together about God’s creation as we became aware of how different the mountain landscapes looked as we traveled across several states and different mountain ranges.  The rock formations with different shapes and colors. Different shapes, colors and sizes of the vegetation, reflecting differences in climate, altitude and temperature.  Quite varied, but each was magnificent and helped to make us aware of God’s great creation and reminded us that we should take care of it.  At Hoover Dam, we saw how the creations of humans can also use what God has made for good.  I am always awed by the ways that we use technology reflect the more hidden wonders of the universe. Rita reminded me of that once again when she asked how the machinery at the dam could make electricity.

Keep dreaming and enjoying each other.

About Rita & Bob Boeke

Rita Boeke has experience teaching scripture and with her husband Bob has experience in enriching marriages through workshops and retreats. They post a weekly blog at thewonderofmarriage.com and co-authored Forever and a Day: An Invitation to Create a Marriage that Lasts a Lifetime.
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