What We Did For Love

We have been traveling, hence no post last week.  We spent time with our daughter and son-in-law as their girls moved on from elementary to junior high and junior high to high school. In addition the girls were in dance recitals and their dance companies’ concert.  It was great to be part of their celebrations and to see their accomplishments, both academic and in dance.  One of the dance numbers at the concert was from A Chorus Line “What I Did For Love.

As I listened to the words it struck me that it speaks to marriage relationships.  We must kiss today goodbye on many occasions when we have let the other down, hurt each other or failed to be the person the other needs us to be. The beauty of our marriage commitment is that we are always pointed to tomorrow.  We learn from the past, forgive what needs to be forgiven, and on many occasions have to rebuild trust.  Tomorrows allow us to celebrate once again what we did for love.

Today we’d like to suggest that you think about the things you’ve done for love and where you have or might need to kiss today goodbye and point yourselves to tomorrow.

There are all the obvious things that we do for love with no gender intended.  We do little things for each other such as laundry, preparing meals, giving each other time, putting gas in the car, or perhaps cleaning up after the other.  There are perhaps other things that we do that are bigger in nature.  Some we know have agreed to move so that their spouse can accept a job promotion even if that means giving up a job that they have just begun to like.  Some have been with the other through times of serious illness even if it was the result of neglect on their spouse’s part.  Some have accepted having a pet that they might not have chosen on their own even with allergies to that pet.  It might also include a difficult pregnancy and deciding to take the leap into a second one without knowing what it might entail.  Couples agree to travel to places they might not have preferred to visit or engage in activities with that travel that was not their first choice.  Others have had to reconcile after great hurts.  We have had to do some of these things.  It never ceases to amaze us what couples, especially those who are married for a significant number of years, do for love.

Kissing away today so that we can embrace tomorrow is not always easy.  It helps if we remember that love, trust and forgiveness are all decisions.  They may not be easy decisions to make and ones we will have to make over and over, but they are the essence of the on-going commitment that we made and continue to make. Love is never gone as long as we continue to decide to place the needs of the other ahead of our own.  Sometimes we did what we had to do and may not have had loving feelings about it at the time.  We can’t forget the times we hurt each other but go forward without regrets about what we did but only promising to do our best not to do it again.

The song lyrics are copied below.  You can find them on the internet or you might have them in your CD library.  We suggest you listen to the song or at least read through the lyrics and think about what you have done for love and then look at where you have or need to kiss today so that you are pointed to tomorrow.  We’d like to hear your responses.  Please leave a comment below.

What I Did For Love

Kiss today goodbye
The sweetness and the sorrow
Wish me luck, the same to you
But I can’t regret
What I did for love, what I did for love

Look, my eyes are dry
The gift was ours to borrow
It’s as if we always knew
And I won’t forget what I did for love
What I did for love

Gone
Love is never gone
As we travel on
Love’s what we’ll remember

Kiss today goodbye
And point me toward tomorrow
We did what we had to do
Won’t forget, can’t regret
What I did for love
What I did for love
What I did for

Love
Love is never gone
As we travel on
Love’s what we’ll remember

Kiss today goodbye
And point me toward tomorrow
Point me toward tomorrow
We did what we had to do
Won’t forget, can’t regret
What I did for love what I did for love
What I did for love

Songwriters
Marvin Hamlisch;Edward Kleban

Published by
SONY/ATV HARMONY;AMERICAN COMPASS MUSIC CORP.;WREN MUSIC CO.

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Today’s scripture readings, reflection and prayer:

Living Together in the Word

Bob & Rita’s book:  Forever and Day:  An Invitation to Create a Marriage That Lasts a Lifetime is available on Amazon.com or by contacting us.  Also available for Kindle and Nook. Make a retreat with your spouse, at home, on your time.  Readings, relationship tips, questions for discussion.

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About Rita & Bob Boeke

Rita Boeke has experience teaching scripture and with her husband Bob has experience in enriching marriages through workshops and retreats. They post a weekly blog at thewonderofmarriage.com and co-authored Forever and a Day: An Invitation to Create a Marriage that Lasts a Lifetime.
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