As children growing up on a farm we often prayed for rain. Who would have thought people would begin to pray for snow? With the Mississippi River and the Great Lakes beginning to show signs of the drought of last summer some are beginning to pray for snow to replenish the water supplies. We thought it might be fun to think about some classic movies about marriage to watch when/if it snows. Here are a few that we gleaned from the media and some of our own. Hope you find one to curl up to and watch when it snows.
Carl, beset with grief after losing his childhood sweetheart and partner for life, Ellie. Faced with sitting alone in bitterness or reconnecting with the world around him, Carl decides the best way to carry on Ellie’s memory is to set out on an unexpected adventure to South America. Carl’s actions become a hilarious but sweet ode to all that is beautiful and inspiring about sharing your life with another human being.
Quote: “Thanks for the adventure. Now go have one of your own.”
‘Julie & Julia’
We loved this movie because of the way it portrayed the support of the men for their wives as they went on to achieve great accomplishments.
Quote: “You are the butter to my bread; you are the breath to my life.”
I read the book first. It touched me deeply as I thought of us aging together. The movie truly celebrates the depth of the marriage vows in its portrayal of the couple as they age together in the nursing home, with Noah keeping vigil by Allie’s side even when she can’t remember their many years together.
Quote: “But in one respect I have succeeded as gloriously as anyone who ever lived. I’ve loved another with all my heart and soul and for me that has always been enough.”
‘When Harry Met Sally’
While this movie is often best remembered for its restaurant scene, it tells the story of Harry and Sally as they discover their love for each other and eventually marry. Throughout the film there are real-life interviews with married couples. Those anecdotes about people randomly meeting in elevators or on the street and staying together for decades gives some of us hope there is still a special person out there for us.
Quote: “I came here tonight because when you realize you want to spend the rest of your life with somebody, you want the rest of your life to start as soon as possible.”
‘Walk the Line’
A biopic in recent years but also a tribute to the real-life love story of singers Johnny and June Carter Cash. Through addictions and divorces, this couple never gave up on each other. Their relationship’s passion and devotion has inspired generations of fans.
Quote: “You’re my best friend. Marry me.”
‘Shall We Dance?’
This movie has a foreign version as well as an American one. The story illuminates what complacency can do to a marriage. John is a man slightly bored with his very successful life and tries to find some happiness in taking dance lessons from a beautiful dance instructor, which leads his wife to suspect he is cheating on her. Surprisingly, through the language of dance, the married couple rediscovers their attraction to each other.
Quote: “We need a witness to our lives. There’re a billion people on the planet… I mean, what does any one life really mean? But in a marriage, you’re promising to care about everything.”
‘Guess Who’s Coming to Dinner’
This movie not only celebrates marriages old and new–as a young, idealistic announces their engagement to their parents–but it’s a social commentary on interracial romance as a taboo in the 1960s.
Quote: “The only thing that matters is what they feel, and how much they feel, for each other. And if it’s half of what we felt–that’s everything.”
While this movie didn’t get great reviews we put it in because it is difficult to find a move that doesn’t end in divorce or start with two divorced people setting out to find someone to fall in love with again or one where divorced people engage in numerous affairs. What we liked about the movie was Kay and Arnold struggling through the doldrums of marriage. In the end after taking risks they manage to work it out and renew their love and commitment to each other.
Quote Kay: “It feels like Arnold and I aren’t going towards anything anymore. I want a real marriage again.”
Eileen: “I think for that to happen you would have to risk everything just to shake things up.”
The first reaction to this from men will likely be that they are all “chick” movies and that may be true but they do give us pause to think about how we live our lives as husband and wife. The most important part of doing this is to spend time together. Usually in a snow storm we spend time entertaining the kids. After the kids are in bed take a little time to enjoy each other. Don’t like our choices? Pick one of your own and enjoy.
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